Special Guest Blogger – Elina Balashova
As you all know I have allowed others to post to my blog before. And since I seem to have writers block lately, its time for this blog to get a bit of a boost. An issue hass come up in the TE World that directly affected Elina and I have offered my little corner of the world to allow her to vent. So please read and comment if you wish, but the following was forwarded to me by Elina this afternoon and it needs to be out there.
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This is why online business can be considered untrusted and might look like a joke…
Usually I find it very difficult to explain people what do I do online. And mostly, it is because people’s first reaction is mostly ironic.
Why? Because it is anonymous mostly. And secondly, you can do anything you want and stay unpunished.
And, it is a perfect place for people who have some problems in the offline world. Like those who have trouble communicating with others, or are suffering from some emotional or mental or whatever diseases or traumas. See, online world opens its doors to everybody and there they can live up their unfulfilled dreams and emotions.
You have probably seen all kinds of remarks on the blogposts, online magazines articles etc, where people just take the freadom of speech as the way to say nasty things to whoever they want.
The same is with online business. It isn’t so hard to start something. So, some people take it as an option to play “da boss” and start whether spamming, or bullyuing or whatever they feel like.
I am not saying everything is so bad. It is just sometimes it looks like just a simulation game.
Recently I felt I was being bullied. And as the story went public, I decided to write my side of it.
A bit more than a year ago I moved to Holland from Estonia. I moved to a boyfriend who also happened to be a surfer.
When I moved, we looked through most of our accounts and contacted some of the owners and asked whether it would be a problem to keep our both accounts. For some it wasn’t a problem, as they already knew us. On some sites we asked to merge our accounts.
Two of these kind of sites, where our accounts were merged, were ClickingSuccess and TrafficRUS.
Mr Mulder merged them himself and said it is all fine.
When CTP Teams started, Mr Mulder started bying lots of promos for CS, so I purchased a lifetime upgrade. Looked like a good deal at a time. Only that after a month, he stopped buying anything, so my surfing there went to minimum. I only surfed sometimes for the easy badges.
Soon something happened. I see it as Mr Mulder taking all the teams game way too seriously. I am sorry to say this, but he looked a bit ridiculous with all his bragging and arrogant behaviour. Looked like a person who doesn’t know how to win and how to lose a game. Unfortunately it affected his team also. Again, I am sorry that I had to bring that up.
By the end of Season 2 things got very nasty, some of the big surfers of the top teams were suspended from his sites. To my surprise so was I. No notification, no explanation, nothing.
Well, to tell you the truth, I don’t know the exact day I was suspended, as I wasn’t surfing there that much. But one day it all was over.
I sent a mail to CS. It returned to me as unread, as obviously I was not a member anymore.
I sent mail to TRus. Instead of the answer, I got suspended from there also.
As Mr Mulder was very active on Twitter, I sent him a Tweet. I got banned from there also.
A day ago, the first sign of Mr Mulder was spotted on Tom Wacker’s blog.
I took my chance, and contacted him there. Got a reply that he told me the reason when he suspended me. As I never had any of that, I asked to tell me again, anywhere he wants, privately or publicly. Nothing.
As me and Pat are living in Holland, and so does Mr Mulder, Pat called him on the number listed in support. Mr Mulder said, he has no business with us and if we keep contacting him, he will go to police.
You know, I tried to analyze this situation as much as I could. I was really trying to find an answer to why this kind of behavior was happenign towards me. What exactly could have I done to piss off someone THAT much?
Me and Pat didn’t use 2 account per a household, so that is not about that.
I never oversurfed, so not that either.
I had some commissions earned, but it was around 17 dollars, so suspend me in order not to pay? Kind of ridiculous.
Was it because I several times refused to join his team?
Was it because I was one of the top surfers in the teams game?
Was it because I also opened a TE? Was it because I am rewarding my upgraded members with more xp? I heard he had some remarks about that, but I never saw those posts myself.
These are just random thoughts, as I really don’t know.
I. really. don’t. know. And it bugs me big time. I WANT to know, but I face the fact that I probably never will, as the person is unreachable.
I will just let the situation go and maybe he will send me a mail one day when he recovers from whatever he has.
Oh well. What I learned from this?
I will probably never buy a lifetime upgrade anymore. Most of the sites where I upgraded for life, either had a better option available afterwards and a lifetime became a waste of money, or they just downgraded big time. I am still happy with purchasing some, but most of the times, it is just ain’t worth it.
That is the reason I will probably never offer a lifetime at my TE.
I also know that I shouldn’t try to be a friend with everyone online. But I am too naive to start seeing an enemy in every single person. So, probably I will get burnt again and again.
But you know what? At least I will do that with a clear consiosness and will sleep without nightmares at night.
Rant over.
Eline please stop this online hate campaign. I also refer to the “sommatie” I sent you
Walter, I am not a hater and have no campaigns. You are calling me publicly a cheater and I want to know why. As you are not telling me anything, I wrote my thoughts about what is going on.
This is the letter I sent you through email today and will be send by registered mail tomorrow:
Betreft: sommatie
Geachte mevrouw Balashova,
Zoals via diverse kanalen (email, chat en skype) eerder meegedeeld bent u permanent gebanned van de traffic exchanges Clicking Success en TrafficR.us. Ik ben de eigenaar van deze online advertentie platformen en ik heb geconstateerd dat u misbruik heeft gemaakt van deze services oa door, maar niet beperkt tot:
– het onder meerdere IP’s en valse identiteiten inloggen;
– het onrechtmatig claimen en delen van prijzen zonder de daartoe benodigde handelingen te hebben uitgevoerd (prijzen claimen zonder te surfen);
– het online delen van individueel aan u toegekende badgecodes;
Vanwege deze onrechtmatige daden is u permanent de toegang ontzegd tot Clicking Success en TrafficR.us.
Enige tijd nadat ik u hiervan per email op de hoogte heb gesteld begon u mij lastig te vallen o.a. via skype en twitter. Ik heb aangegeven hiervan niet gediend te zijn en u ook op deze services geblokkeerd.
U heeft vervolgens online pogingen gedaan mij zwart te maken o.a. het verspreiden van leugens en het onjuist weergeven van feiten. Bijvoorbeeld op de blog Tomwacker.com d.d. 7 april (waar ik toevallig pas weken later op werd gewezen door iemand die dit online had gezien) en vandaag op TheSportsNerd.us.
De situatie is geëscaleerd op zaterdagavond 18 april waarbij ik tweemaal telefonisch lastig ben gevallen door de heer Van der Toorn (waarmee u naar ik begrijp samenwoont) ondanks dat ik duidelijk aangaf met hem niets van doen te hebben.
Vanwege de agressieve houding heb ik vrijwillig besloten de door u betaalde $ 77 voor gebruikte privileges in Clicking Success te restitueren via Paypal ondanks dat ik hiertoe niet verplicht was (u heeft de services immers gebruikt en misbruikt). Ik voel mij echter onder druk gezet en onheus bejegend.
Samen met het online samenwerkingsverband Lucky 13 hebt u getracht mij reputatieschade toe te brengen via oa blogposts, tweets en andere online uitingen. Tegen de heer Tom Wacker is inmiddels een Cease and Desist order uitgevaardigd maar ook u stel ik aansprakelijk voor schadelijke uitlatingen in mijn richting zowel van u persoonlijk als van uw team Lucky13.
Ik sommeer u de uitlatingen op internet terug te nemen en verder geen inbreuk te maken op mijn privacy. Ook Lucky 13 dient met onmiddelijke ingang de haatcampagne te staken.
Ik eis dat de blogpost op TomWacker en TheSportsNerd.us volledig wordt verwijderd binnen 14 dagen na dagtekening.
Daarnaast eis ik dat u en de heer Van der Toorn stoppen met het stalken van ondergetekende. Indien u mij in de toekomst nogmaals benaderd zal aangifte worden gedaan bij de politie te Terneuzen. Verder contact met u en/of de heer Van der Toorn stel ik niet op prijs.
Hiermee stel ik u bij voorbaat aansprakelijk voor alle financiele en emotionele schade die ontstaat uit verdere aantasting van mijn goede reputatie. Daarbij zal ik niet schromen u hoofdelijk aansprakelijk te stellen voor de acties van Lucky13.
Toekomstige juridische acties sluit ik niet uit indien u geen gevolg geeft aan deze sommatie.
Hoogachtend,
Walter Mulder
Elina, I am sorry for what is happening. You are one of the most honest persons I have met in TE land and you have an outstanding TE.
I understand how you feel about being too trusting. I have the same problem, but like you and Pat, sleep well at night.
My family and I are going through quite a bit of horror at the moment, and we seem to be all alone, but I know we are not alone because Jehovah God knows what we are going through. He knows what you and Pat are going through as well.
Remain the outstanding person that you are and the rest will take care of itself and never forget that you are known, liked and trusted in TE Land.
Hang in there friend 🙂
Walter,
Thank you for an answer. Finally I received at least something from you and I really appreciate it. Although I don’t speak Dutch, so I needed to translate it first.
This is where my understanding stops. What you reasons of my suspension were listed, I never abused any.
You know very well that me and Pat are using the same account. You were the one who merged our accounts. I never overclaimed your prizes, there were not so many to claim. And badge codes? How can I abuse badge codes? Only me or Pat were claiming them. And you know it!
And please dont tell me you contacted me. I removed you from my skype contacts long before. You never told me anything through mails or chats either. Toms blog post was the first time I saw anything from you. And you blocked me from everywhere I wrote to you.
But ok. At least you told me something.
Thank you for that.
Well I told you several times before. And in the letter explained it further I also told you to refrain from these defamation/libel actions
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Nothing at any blogposts will be removed. I am waiting for your letter to come by postal mail so my lawyer can handle with it. i hope you are ready for it Mr. Mulder
Since Scott is the owner of this blog he will have to deal with the cease and desist order towards him.
As for your harresments Pat, I will not accept these
Hi Iss Elina and Mr Pat. am sorry u are going thru this mess. there are ppl out there that have similiar problems online. u r not alone. best thing i can say is – use this asa learning xprerience and move on. i hope things do get better for u both. u r such good ppl!